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Thank you for sharing your story and these thoughts, Sam. When I've done it, asking men to explain the joke has always revealed something interesting. I'm looking forward to reading your book.

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Dominic! Thank you. I love that you've already put this in practice. Bravo to your bravery! Would love your feedback once you read the book.

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I like how you do a wrap-around at the end - concluding the story with which you began - nice literary technique. And your content is convicting and compassionate. Thank you.

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Oh thank you! That's so kind. I appreciate your reflections.

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Thank you for this!

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Absolutely!

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Terrific insights here. Thank you, Sam.

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You are so welcome. Thank you!

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Heather’s advice seems to be exactly what is needed to courageously respond to these situations and turn the tide back on the offender.

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Right!? That is such savvy and wise advice.

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Thank you for this! So many wonderful insights. Beautifully written. Absolute excellence!

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Thank you Jen! That means so much.

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Thank you! Found you through Sarah Mcdugal coffee and convo. Looking forward to your book!

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I recently experienced a joke like this, and it DID feel like a tool for numbing the heart of the speaker in a heightened emotional state. Thank you for that language, and for providing both a clear line of “not Ok” and also a path for compassion and empathy for the men who are numbing their own emotions because that’s what they’ve been taught to do.

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Just beautiful.

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Great article

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