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James H's avatar

Letting go of fantasy that seeks to repeat trauma seems possible and reasonable as I gain understanding of how and why those fantasies were formed. I’m happy to trade them in for something more creative and life giving.

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Ben Richardson's avatar

Excellent article. Let’s be brave enough to be curious about our sin. Incredible insight.

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Sam Jolman's avatar

Thanks so much Ben! Yes, yes, bravery with curiosity. The redemption of our dissociation.

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Doug Hunt's avatar

Hey Sam - your insights and examples and helpful questions in this article are really useful. … that my sexual fantasies tell a story in search of meaning and an ending

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L. Adams's avatar

Having just processed abuse trauma, I can definitely relate to dreams telling me things. I have been reading my dreams to see what my body is telling me, amongst other things.

I always love reading your posts, Sam. It has just occurred to me that I need to buy your book. It is so nice to find a reasonable voice writing about unwanted sexual behavior.

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Eric Francis's avatar

Hmmm, I thought I posted a comment....was it deleted? It was from the Chiron Return account

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Sam Jolman's avatar

Yessir, I did. I don't let people promote things in the comments.

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Eric Francis's avatar

Ideas are things. Every comment promotes an idea.

My comment was on topic.

The "thing" you say I promoted was free. Related to the "thing" you are writing about.

So you stand alone in the world? If I "like" your post, it shows up in my personal feed. So you let people promote you.

And you could, of course, have said something to me.

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